if i ever misgender you or use slang (bro, man, gurl, dude) that makes you feel even slightly uncomfortable please tell me because your gender identity and comfort is more important than any word i may use to refer to you
a friendly tip: if you feel the urge to self harm get an ice cube and hold it in your hand for a while. it relieves the compulsion in a less destructive way. therapists have used this with their patients and i have tried it myself it works pretty well
Okay wow this is now my favourite post on Tumblr. Signal boost into infinity.
My mom’s a therapist and she recommends this to people all the time
“One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl. I wear colors that I really like, I wear makeup that makes me feel pretty, and it really helps. It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see. Your body is your temple, it’s your home, and you must decorate it.”—Gabourey Sidibe (via crystawl)
I guess… I can whistle in weird ways? I can whistle through my teeth (maybe that’s not that unusual?) But also, I can roll my tongue, or crumple it up into like a clover shape, and then whistle through it. A lot of people think that is strange.
92) You can re-live any point of time in your life. The time-span can only be a half-hour, though. What half-hour of your past would you like to experience again?
Oh my god this is genuinely really difficult. I am going to give two answers because I couldn’t decide. Shush it’s not cheating okay. I’m just an indecisive person. Number One: The last 15 minutes of 2013 and the first 15 minutes of 2014. I was with all my friends, some of whom I hadn’t seen in months or even years, we had delicious wine that I brought back from Switzerland, we watched the fireworks on TV and then switched to old Doctor Who. I was so happy and tipsy and it was so magical. Number Two: The first time I kissed my ex-girlfriend. (I think I’m safe saying this as she is on tumblr hiatus and my current boyfriend doesn’t have tumblr hahahaha whoops so shoot me) Like, it was the first time anyone had properly properly kissed me and it was like… all tingly and happy and teenage-y exciting in the way that teenage first kisses are. The relationship in general turned out kind of badly cause I was afraid of coming out, and afraid of coming to terms with being ace, and we all had other stresses on our plates and it ended badly. Buuuuut that short time was the best tbh. I’d love to be all teenage-y and excited about new love again.
95) You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere. You have to depart right now. Where are you gonna go?
If there were no consequences? HOME HOME HOME HOME HOME HOME HOME Like, I know I only have a month left here, and I’m planning travelling around Kansai etc. which is exciting and stuff, but right now I’m tired and sad and lonely and I just want to hug my mum and eat homely food. Take me back to bacon sandwiches and signs I can read without an app and cool summers. Please.
99) If the whole world were listening to you right now, what would you say?
umm gosh idk. the whole world listening is a lot of pressure! I’d like to say something succinct and inspiring about social issues, but I’m not very eloquent and there’s no guarantee the world would take my advice anyways. I guess I’d tell them not to listen to me, but to listen to somebody whose opinions on the matter were much more worth listening to. I can think of a few people on here who qualify for that. :)
you’re a really great person. I really appreciate that you are always here for me. I appreciate that more than I could ever put into words. I’m sorry I don’t always acknowledge that you are. sometimes thinking about people back home is just too much for me. but I need you to know that your support is the best thing I could ask for. also, you’re never a bother to anyone, I promise, especially not me. never ever. I wish it were easier to convince you of that. thank you also for being my ace auntie 5eva. having you around, especially in first year, gave this freshly-out-the-closet ace more confidence than ever, and that meant a lot. you’re wonderful, please always stick around.
This is something I used to do a lot. On a relatively small scale, maybe, but I still did it. Like, when people used to ask me “Do you know [band]?” or “Have you seen [show]?” I’d pretend some knowledge of whatever it was, even if I’d never even heard of it. God knows WHY - like, usually these people were already my friends, so why did I feel I needed to do that? I guess I’m always worried about fitting in, clichéd as that sounds. My high school was super cliquey, and I definitely think the ‘lying about trivial stuff to feel more accepted’ behaviour started there.
Recently though, I realised that this kind of behaviour is real bullshit, so I’ve been trying to stop. I think I’m getting better now :)
You can tell a lot about someone by the type of music they listen to. Hit shuffle on you iPod, phone, iTunes, media player etc. and write down the first 20 songs…
1. Gold - ‘Once’ the Musical (London cast obvs) 2. Ikebukuro West Exit Five-Way Intersection - Makoto Yoshimori (from the Durarara!! Soundtrack) 3. Krabat - ASP 4. Come On Eileen - Dexy’s Midnight Runners 5. Call It Off - Tegan & Sara 6. God & Satan - Biffy Clyro 7. You Can Call Me Al - Paul Simon 8. Turn Loose the Mermaids - Nightwish 9. Let Me Go (Please Please Please) - Duke Special 10. Goodbye Love - from ‘Rent’ 11. Violent Pornography - System of a Down 12. Cactus Flower Rag - Harper Simon (son of Paul, mentioned above. just a fun fact.) 13. Birdhouse in Your Soul - They Might Be Giants 14. Straight Towards the Sun - Newton Faulkner 15. Forgiving You Was Easy - Willie Nelson 16. Blue (da ba dee) - Eiffel 65 17. Elle Me Dit - MIKA 18. All the Myths Are True - Abney Park 19. For Your Entertainment - Adam Lambert 20. Letterbomb - Green Day